Despite the technological and political revolutions sweeping the globe, unconscious patterns of behavior often prevent us from finding fulfillment either at work or at home. Many of us find ourselves in relationships that constrain our self-expression and stifle our creativity. Too many work environments are not just competitive, but hostile. At home, we feel undermined rather than supported. Though we may be outwardly successful, many of us feel drained, even defeated.
This is more than a personal, psychological problem. It is a cultural problem. Without personal peace, we will never achieve world peace. The same patterns that control our behavior in the bedroom and the boardroom dictate our interactions with other nations. For too long, aggression, domination, and victimization have been at the forefront of all those interactions.
We can have peace in our lives, eliminate negativity, claim our inner power, manifest our potential, contribute to global change and possibly even save our planet by learning to be in supportive relationships with ourselves, with others, and with our environment. But doing so means changing the way we interact with everyone around us and even with our own thoughts—remapping all of our relationships.
Remapping Relationships: A Path to Peace and Fulfillment is a powerful new workshop by Peacelights founder Joumana Rizk.
Discover a step-by-step process designed to help you create deep connections with yourself and others, remove negativity from relationships not working for you and free your energy to create a peaceful life that fulfills you.
In this workshop, we will look at our relationships and see where we are fully loved and where we are undermined or let down by those closest to us. We will then reveal the unconscious relationships maps that prevent us from being fully supported. We will create empowering relationships maps from which we can truly thrive.
The workshops include guided meditations that will allow you to access your subconscious mind, and kinetic exercises that will embed the new information in your body so you can apply into your everyday life. Beginners and trained participants are welcome. Please bring a curious mind and an open heart!
Our next Remapping Relationships events are happening this month in Beirut, Lebanon.
Thursday, March 20th and Friday, March 21st
College Notre Dame de Jamhour, Ateliers Culturels
For information: Tina Azar, entre 9h et 15h aux 05 924151 (ext. 1250), 05-923965 (direct)
Saturday March 22nd and Saturday March 29th and 30th
Nok Yoga Shala, Nok Foundation Inc., NY
For information: Yasmine at email@example.com
What Is A Relationship Map?
When we interact with the world and others around us, we create an interconnected network of relations. Every act or choice necessarily influences others in the network, because we live in close connection to others. The maps we follow determine the course of our lives: where we go, who we become, what goals we achieve or fail to achieve. Like maps in the physical world, there are some relationship maps with fixed destinations; unlike maps between cities, we do not always know that we’re following them.
We inherit maps from our culture, from our family, from our social environment. Sometimes these maps assign us very rigid roles. If these roles do not correspond to our inner selves, they can soon become our prison, and prevent us from fulfilling and realizing our potentials. Then we feel disempowered and dissatisfied. We find ourselves trapped between what we want for ourselves and what society expects.
Recognizing and understanding the maps that are guiding us can bring about breakthrough experiences and show us ways to peacefully change the aspects of our lives where we feel dissatisfied, disempowered and out of place.
When we can see the map and observe ourselves on these paths, we can choose to rearrange our network of relationships, to remap them in a way that corresponds with our real inner selves. Remapping allows us to achieve harmony with our loved ones, to express and listen to our deeper needs and to reach a better life. It empowers us to break the cycle of misery, discontent, and resentment. It gives us a chance to flourish, to succeed, to bring about the lives we yearn to live.
Breaking free of our negative relationship maps will transform us into powerful agents in the great movement of change and awakening of personal powers occurring around the world.
What type of relationship maps will we be exploring?
The most pervasive maps that we have inherited from our culture are the maps of patriarchy. These maps have been in place and operating for millennia. They have permeated all aspects of our lives: our families, our workplaces, our government.
Patriarchal maps are hierarchical and rigid. The alpha male leads and the only way to become a leader is to replace the existing alpha. In patriarchal maps, we can only act within very limited roles, such as leader or follower. The follower often becomes powerless to shift the course of action. In situations where followers feels that they can lead better, they nonetheless are powerless to act and have no say unless they can take the leader’s place. Replacing the leader can be problematic because a real solution requires different dynamics, while in patriarchal maps each role is very rigid. The map forces the new leader into the same behavior as the one s/he replaced.
It is important to understand that patriarchal maps are very crucial to have and to use in some situations, such as on a ship or in war, where we do need a strongly defined alpha leader to direct our journeys. The roles in these maps are effective because of their very rigidity. Yet in our families and in many of our organizations, the patriarchal maps restrict creativity and ask too many of us to suppress our true nature and desires for the benefit of the alpha.
Two relationship maps we have inherited from the patriarchy are the Map of Domination and the Shame/Blame Map. In a Remapping Relationships workshop, you will have the opportunity to explore these maps in your own life and learn how they have become so deeply ingrained in our consciousness that we confuse them with human nature.
The Map of Domination and the Shame/Blame Map are the twisted, toxic side of the masculine. They take us into repeated destructive behaviors. And we cannot solve the problems created by the Maps of Patriarchy from within those maps. We have to step out of those maps and find new maps to guide us.
In October 2011, three women were awarded the Nobel Peace Prize for working on behalf of women’s rights. One of them was Leymah Gbowee, who organized women to put an end to the civil wars in Liberia. By 2003, the country had endured 14 years of violence. The Patriarchal Maps had no solutions to offer.
Instead, Leymah Gbowee and Comfort Freeman organized the Women in Peacebuilding Network and mobilized thousands of women to protest, fast, and pray. Gbowee even threatened to lead a sex strike. The women’s efforts were ultimately successful in bringing the two sides together and opening the country up to free elections.
The resurgence of the Feminine in the 21st century shows us an evolution from patriarchy to partnership: from an authoritarian power structure of control towards a circle of true equals. This enlightenment provides us with helpful tools to recreate the feminine map. It is a fluid, flexible, permeable, network of connections. Like a rhizome, it spreads, extending its shoots to develop new plants. Unlike the patriarchal pyramid map of “who’s on top”, we create a Feminine Map the core of which is partnership.
In general, feminine maps are similar to feminine energy, which is circular, like the movement of life. In contrast to the linear movement in the patriarchal maps, where the roles must be rigidly defined in order to move in a linear way, the circular map of the feminine maps allow us to experience different roles and different aspects of ourselves freely. We are not confined within one role, but have the opportunity to be abundantly creative, to express and bring forth our inner powers, to become and help others become empowered.
Both feminine and masculine maps are beneficial in certain situations and harmful in others. That is why it takes an understanding of both to allow them to work together and compliment each other within our lives and within society.
What will I discover in the Remapping Relationships: A Path to Peace and Fulfillment workshop
You may have done therapy, yoga, meditation, coaching and/or many self help methods. You may have tried changing partners, changing jobs, or changing countries in order to feel better. What you will discover here is a new comprehensive approach to deepen your connection to yourself and others and to give the world the gift of your full expression.
If you have questions about Remapping Relationships, please email Info@peacelights.org. If you have questions about the logistics of a specific event or to sign up for an upcoming workshop please click on the links above associated with the event you are interested in or contact the person listed.
Please note that in our upcoming workshops this March in Beirut, we can accommodate French speakers.
Peacelights founder and directress Joumana Rizk is a Master Integrative coach with over a decade of experience. Based in New York City, she works with individuals and groups around the world, from India to Paris and Rome to her native Lebanon.
Joumana studied with the Ford Institute for Transformational Training and is one of the few individuals certified to lead Debbie Ford’s Shadow Process.
The most important thing I’ve learned from Joumana is a strong human connection with first myself and then others, specifically developing more intimacy with my family, ending toxic relationships, re-organizing my business to free my time, working with a charitable organization, and building a supportive relationship with a wonderful woman. I highly recommend this work for anyone who wants to thrive in their relationships and live a life of meaning and purpose. Someone had to show me this self understanding since at first I could barely sit still let, alone find myself. Joumana helped me to learn to live in the present, to enjoy myself and find inner peace. I am no longer attached to the material world and I don’t cry on anything that doesn’t cry back on me. I highly recommend Joumana to anyone embarking on the amazing journey of self discovery, happiness, and enlightenment.
Khajak Keledjian, Founder and CEO of Intermix